10 Things to Know Before You Go On Your First Tinder Date

Getting a date is exciting but at the same time, you might be worrying a million things about the date. What is the person like? What to do on the date? How should I present myself? And the questions go on and on. But the good news is if the date is not good, it’s just a one-time thing, you don’t have to be with the person forever.

There are many different types of people in the world, and it is not surprising that these types of people are on the Internet. So, when you are looking for friends or a date, it’s like an experiment. You have to actually go on a date and be sure if the person is the one you are looking for. There are many dating apps, and Tinder is one of the famous ones.

Let’s reveal the top 10 must know tips for you to get a date on Tinder.

1.) The Awkward First Date

The first date is always awkward even if you have known the date for some time. And the situation is getting weirder when you are going on a blind date with someone you know online and have limited information about the person. Be prepared for the awkward moment, try to start some topics about hobbies, favorite books, and movies to break the ice. If your sense of humor has been proven by almost everyone around you, telling some jokes is a good idea, too.

2.) Don’t Rush It

Unless there’s no tomorrow, or you should take your time. Never question yourselves or your date on ‘where are we standing’, ‘what does second date means’, ‘do you really want to be with me or not’. Things happen for a reason. Tinder has put you and your date together, now go with the flow and enjoy it. But don’t move too slow or the date will be slipping away.

3.) You Are Your Own Entertainment

Some dates are good on the phone and not so good in real life, that happens. Therefore, if your date is not as good as you expected, you must entertain yourself by telling jokes and making conversations. Sometimes, saying some random things will help in easing the tense and warm each other up.

4.) Unintended Comments

When we are nervous, we might be acting differently. And usually, when you are on a date, you will be nervous as well and make some weird comments. If your date keeps making quick comments that make you feel uncomfortable, just talk to your date, it is probably just the nerves.

5.) Leave The Window Opens

Alright, you are not sure if you would like to go on a second date with the person at the end of the first date. Just say yes because when you’re not sure, it is always a 50/50 chance and you should explore further. Maybe you will be discovering something interesting about the person which you will like a lot.

6.) Timing Is Key

When it comes to dating, timing is everything. And since there are so many different types of people in the world, you should be ready to date some people you click with and some people you feel uncomfortable with. Just pay close attention to it. Meeting someone at a different time can make a huge difference.

7.) Don’t Expect Too Much

When you are not expecting, you would be happy to get something. If you put your hopes too high, you will be hurt when the result is not what you desired. Set your expectations, but don’t make it too high or else you will get disappointed.

8.) The Perfect Stranger

If you have problems to get someone to click with, many people out there are facing this problem as well. Perhaps someone you are looking for is waiting for you to ring the bell. Be confident, be brave, it’s just a date. And if you are really scared of meeting strangers, just tell some of your close friends where are you going, who are you seeing and some other details.

With the help of all the tips above, it is time for you to go on a get a date for yourself. Don’t be shy because the endless opportunities are waiting for you.

9.) Politely Reject The Next Meeting

If the dates are like an experiment, you should know some will be successful and some will fail. If the date ended up badly for any reasons, you should be leaving the date in a positive manner and reject the idea of meeting again politely.

10.) The First Impression Doesn’t Always Count

Today you make a mistake and your boss didn’t like it, I am sure you won’t be purposely making the same mistake again because it jeopardizes your career. Same thing goes to dating, if your date made some mistakes on the first date but you really like the person, don’t judge too soon, everyone deserves a second chance.

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Why Being Real Matters Online & In Real Life

Everyone tries hard to conceal their negative feelings toward something they don’t believe in. And when it comes to the Internet, we can lie to people without being confronted, convenient, isn’t it?

When you see your friend is marrying some douchebag and think their marriage would never survive the first year but still posting the ‘congratulations’ note or give one of those ‘beautiful’ comments to your friends who had a new haircut which you think it’s weird, but running around and give your ‘real’ comments on those things, you are being fake and people will know that you’re lying. In most cases, many people have faked their resume by claiming those skills that they are not qualified for, in order to get the job.

One thing is for sure, lying is never the best solution. To connect with people, establish relationships, the first thing we must do is to be true to ourselves. Many people have mistaken ‘to be real’ is ‘to be rude’ but that’s not the case. We can still express our feelings in a friendly manner. Dislike your friend’s makeup? Try to give constructive criticism instead of a fake compliment. As for work, tell the interviewer what you really think, feel and want. So, you will know what to expect when you accept the offer.

Lies Backfires

Once you have started lying, you will have to create more lies to cover lies. It will be a never-ending story and sooner or later, people will get to know the truth, and it will be one ugly outcome which cost your image, your reputation, and your credibility. For instance, you really want to get a job but you know your qualification is not fulfilling the requirements. So, you put in skills and expertise which you don’t possess. Think further, will you be happy even if you get the job? And when your employer found out you’re lying about your qualification, you have lost your credibility. And if the same thing happens to your personal relationships, you are jeopardizing your friendships.

Credibility and reputations are hard to build but easy to destroy. This is especially true when you put your words online for everyone to see and share. Once the lie is exposed, trust is shattered, relationships are broken and reputation is damaged. The impact is much more serious when it involves the people from your professional life.

Be Real, Be Authentic

We make friends and trust establish friendships. To establish trust and relationships, it involves authenticity. Authenticity often means “have a firm hold on the core beliefs spiritually, emotionally, intellectually and realize it through your actions and behavior.” In short, you are being authentic when you express yourself genuinely and humbly.

And being authentic also means that being consistent. What you say is what you mean, online and offline. Of course, you can always choose to fake it until you make it with well-rehearsed performances, to behave what you think people would like you to. However, this is not a long-term strategy as you are not being yourself. Stay true to yourself, stay genuine to the people, that is the way to make a real connection with them and establish positive relationships in life.

And when you are being the real you, people don’t need to guess if you have any meaning behind the things you have said. And when they interact with you, they will know that they can be genuine as well.

Be Authentic Online

It is amazing that sometimes we can tell if someone is lying. It might be the eye contact, the tone and manner, the body language or even the texts, it is hard to pinpoint it sometimes. But the point is, when you are telling lies, people will know. And when you are presenting yourself according to your script, people won’t buy it. Yes, you get ‘likes’, ‘comments’ and ‘share’ on your posts and photos but in fact, what your friends are looking for is someone authentic with real emotions, happy and sad, anger and fear, someone with dreams, goals and talents, someone with flaws. No one is perfect, right?

Understand what you really want, what you believe in, what you think and know what you should do. When you figure those out and you are ready to reveal yourself genuinely. Let the inner-self come through. Always remember, stay real, stay humble.

How NOT to Create an Online Dating Profile (part 1 of 3)

The difference between a good dating profile and a GREAT online dating profile is 100 mph.  In fact, I believe that it should be a course offered in college — ‘Creating a Hot Dating Profile 101’

I can’t pretend to be an expert, but here’s a few tips:

1. )  No selfies, ever.

This goes without saying. Selfies make you look sad and alone without friends. It also looks a little creepy… know what I mean?

2.)  Short profiles = fail

Give your profile some depth by writing more than 2-sentences. Try for 100-150 words. Most dating sites have user algorithms which will demote your profile if you have little to no content.

(p.s. a longer profile might also prove that you passed high school english)

3.)  Say what you’re looking for

Don’t be rude, but it’s important to plainly state what you’re looking for.  Do you like women or men that are into fitness? vegan? work the night shifts? Saying what you want will save you and everyone else a lot of time.